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By getting it all out in the open, they could purge themselves of these feelings all in one go. Then in a team of scientists decided to take a look. They surveyed a group of patients with coronary artery disease to determine their levels of anger, suppressed anger and tendency to experience distress, and followed them for between five and ten years to see what happened next. Initially it looked like both anger and suppressed anger increased the likelihood of having a heart attack.
But after controlling for other factors, the researchers realised anger had no impact — while suppressing it increased the chances of having a heart attack by nearly three-fold.
And not all benefits are physical: anger can help with negotiating, too. A major flashpoint for aggression is the discovery that someone does not value your interests highly enough. It involves inflicting costs — the threat of physical violence — and withdrawing benefits — loyalty, friendship, or money — to help them see their mistake. Support for this theory comes from the faces we pull when angry. In fact, scientists are increasingly recognising that grumpiness may be beneficial to the full range of social skills — improving language skills, memory and making us more persuasive.
In fact, anger and altruism may be closely linked Credit: Getty Images. In line with this, research has also found that feeling slightly down enhances our awareness of social cues.
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Intriguingly, it also encourages people to act in a more — not less — fair way towards others. Though happiness is often thought of as intrinsically virtuous, the emotion brings no such benefits.
Then the second player gets to decide whether or not to accept. If they agree, the money is split how the first player proposed. If not, neither player gets any money. The ultimatum game is often used as a test of our sense of fairness by showing whether you expect to get a share or whether you are happy for each person to be in it for themselves.
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Interestingly, all negative emotions led to more rejections by the second player, which might suggest that these feelings enhance our sense of fairness and the need for everyone to be treated equally. Reversing the set-up reveals this is not just a case of sour grapes, either. It turns out that happier participants keep more of the prize for themselves, while those in a sad mood are significantly less selfish. Optimistic newspaper articles have been linked to poor economic performance in subsequent weeks Credit: Getty Images. In some situations, happiness carries far more serious risks.
In prehistoric times, happiness would have left our ancestors vulnerable to predators. In modern life, it prevents us paying due attention to dangers such as binge drinking, overeating and unsafe sex. Those in a continuous happy haze may miss important cues.
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Instead, they may be over-reliant on existing knowledge — leaving them prone to serious errors of judgement. In one study , Forgas and colleagues from the University of New South Wales, Australia, put volunteers in either a happy or sad mood by screening films in the laboratory.
Then he asked them to judge the truth of urban myths, such as that power lines cause leukaemia or the CIA murdered President Kennedy. Herbert Foster. A Grumpy Man's Guide to Suburbia provides a hilarious perspective on life in the 'burbs. The author provides humorous commentary on everything from houseguests to neighbors, from barbecuing to shopping for a spouse, and from marital communications to cleaning out the freezer.
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If you live in the suburbs or are married this book is a must. Marx "Full of truth! I send copies [of his columns] to my friends.
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Too loud. Too expensive. Music concerts? Nowhere to sit down.
Even the cinema, with its endless adverts and decibel-busting popcorn munchers, has been sent to try you. Age has put things in perspective. You realise you have lived longer than most of your ancestors, enjoyed better food, healthcare, and housing, more interesting travel and a prolonged period without a world war.
You can even console yourself in the face of encroaching ill health and death with the thought that all those heedless, would-be-immortal youngsters will go through this one day, too. We urge you to turn off your ad blocker for The Telegraph website so that you can continue to access our quality content in the future.
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